Motivation

People are motivated by two things: They’re motivated by principle and pleasure, or they are motivated by pain. We create our own jail cells, where bars are made of anger, bitterness, resentment and grudges. What’s the key to all of this? Forgiveness. It’s your choice. Do you want to stay where you are, in misery, or do you want to be free from this state of mind? When we’re hurting it’s only human to want to blame someone else. Quit running away from it. Face the fear. Forgive. Once you forgive, you’re given the opportunity to live an amazing life of …

To Forgive or Not To Forgive

When I was asked to write a Victim Impact Statement before my final court appearance, I immediately understood the weight that went with it. I knew that it would be shared with other victims who had gone through similar circumstances and that it would be used as an example. I wanted to be a voice for women, while still asking myself what Jesus would do. I mean, He was betrayed by one of his top twelve, His body was broken, He bled. But in the end, He forgave. I’m a flawed human with bitterness and anger. Could I do the same? To …

Jesus Taught Forgiveness

Are you struggling to forgive one who has harmed you? Has your inability to forgive turned to bitterness and is eating away at the center of your life? Or maybe you have learned how to forgive? No doubt many are somewhere between revenge and true forgiveness; if so, trust these comments will be helpful. After Jesus’ disciples asked Him to teach them to pray, He gave the Model Prayer. In this prayer were these words, “And forgive our debts as we forgive our debtors.” I suspect this part of Jesus’ model prayer caused the disciples to feel somewhat uncomfortable because they were not perfect and especially Peter; once he asked Jesus: “How many …

Forgiveness Brings Healing

    If you have suffered a harmful offense by another and finally forgave that person, you are experiencing a sense of healing in your life. Usually such a wound inflicted does not heal overnight, but we should begin by praying for the offender and asking God to bless him or her. I must remember that my offense probably was not intentional: if harsh words were spoken that caused my hurt; perhaps they were spoken in haste, or that one was dealing with his or her own problems. If my hurt was feeling rejected by not being included in some activity, reminding myself there was a reason I …

Faith and Forgiveness

      Genesis 50: 15-20 “And when Joseph’s brethren saw that their father was dead, they said, “Joseph will perhaps hate us, and will certainly requite us all the evil which we did unto him.” 16 And they sent a messenger unto Joseph, saying, “Thy father did command before he died, saying,17 ‘So shall ye say unto Joseph, “Forgive, I pray thee now, the trespass of thy brethren and their sin, for they did unto thee evil.”’ And now, we pray thee, forgive the trespass of the servants of the God of thy father.” And Joseph wept when they spoke unto …

Pursue Forgiveness

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Sweet Release

  Family curses are real. My family tree is a tangled up mess. Generations have battled depression, bitterness, shame, sickness and more. For years, when I thought of my paternal grandparents I couldn’t even bring myself to say a prayer. When I knew they needed prayer, I delegated. I asked my husband or my children to do the work because my heart couldn’t find the words. I’m not sure how, but I didn’t see this as unforgiveness. God knew my limitations though. He understood that years of rejection had left me speechless and hard. There had to be grace for …

I Can Forgive but I Can’t Forget

  Do you feel held back in the area of forgiveness? Are you worried that forgiveness would somehow condone the past or excuse a serious wrong done to you? How can an abused wife forgive her husband or a child victim offer forgiveness to their molester? Even if a person’s forgiveness is deep and all the hard work of healing done, can it you ever forget? These are big questions that often leave us stuck on the forgiveness issue as we cling to our offenses, too scared to put them down. Psalm 103: 12 reads “as far as the east …