We often put so much pressure on our husbands, children, friends and family to fill a void in our lives, to be a certain way, or to be who we think they should be so they can meet our needs and our expectations. Whether we are aware we do this or if we do this unknowingly, it’s wrong.
Let me say it again, no human will ever be able to meet our deepest needs. It is Jesus’ job to fill that part of our soul and no one else can do it. Our husbands, friends, family, etc…WILL fail us, just as we WILL fail them. They will hurt us, mainly because of these unseen expectations or needs we want them to meet for us.
People will let us down…we live in a fallen world and are naturally sinful and selfish. By knowing this and remembering this, we can let grace slide into our hurts and our disappointments from others. This does not mean we are a doormat. This does not mean that we hide how we are feeling from others, but that we share it openly and honestly with love because unresolved conflict can erupt or turn into bitterness if bottled up.
When we allow Jesus to reside in us and in our relationships there is so much love and grace ready and waiting to be poured out. We should lovingly let others know what we need from them, but give them grace when (not if) they fall short.
“And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work.” 2 Corinthians 9: 8
We are given grace everyday abundantly…grace, forgiveness, no bitterness bottling up from Jesus –how freeing is that!? Let others go. Set them free of these expectations and just love them. As unselfishly and as purely as Jesus will let you (is there a cap on that!? I doubt it!). Love Him and Love others.
The day Jesus Christ died on the cross was the beginning of grace for those who believe and follow him. Grace that is available to all people if they accept it. The grace unseen that is weaved throughout Scripture before this one sacrificial act caused grace to truly burst forth for us (can I get a “thank you, Lord”!?). For us to truly offer grace to others we must learn to accept it and embrace it for ourselves. Because of this grace so freely given to us, we are empowered and equipped to give it to others.
Who do you need to free up of certain expectations you have placed on them? In what relationship do you need to let go of anger, bitterness or resentfulness today?
Lord, You are grace unending. And sometimes we just don’t understand it. I pray you would help us understand it for ourselves so we can openly give it to others in the freedom of the cross. Help us recognize where we need to show grace to others in our lives. You created us beautifully, uniquely, and it’s awesome! You are so creative! Your hope for us is that we would love You and love others. You love us with such freedom of grace; grace and love with no strings attached, no performance we have to do to be yours…help us to love your people with this same love and grace. In the freedom of the cross may we love and love and then love some more. In our Savior’s beautiful name, Amen.