How To Boil a Frog


Do you know how to boil a frog? No? Well let me tell you that it really is pretty easy. All you have to do is put them in cold water then slowly and gradually turn the heat up.

As I was getting ready for church this morning, I couldn’t put this image out of my mind. I couldn’t stop thinking about how many times that I have been this slimy green amphibian. Things start happening and the heat gradually turns up. I never see it coming. I should but I never do. There is little doubt that Satan plans this for Christians lives. This is his plan of attack that always seems to get me.  He has attacked me in areas of my life I never expected. It happened in my career, and even in an abusive relationship that I believed, at the time, God had ordained.

As the temperature of that pot continued to rise I realized I had to get out knowing many people would get hurt in the process.  Plain and simple, the devil had attacked and I wasn’t ready to admit it or even see it until the water was about to boil. I know that I am not the only one that has lived the reality of abuse, and unfortunately, I will not be the last.

Today, I want to speak to those that are still in this situation… to the ones that like me believed that it is better to stay for your children and would almost rather die than to live with the stigma that it produces; to the ones that don’t know how you will provide for your family if you were to get out; to those that believe you should stay because that is the right thing to do; and to those who feel that you would be sinning against God if you left (this was one of my many struggles).  I found this statement from Focus on the Family Mary J. Yerks said this:

“Nowhere in scripture does God sanction any kind of abuse. In 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7, God tells us what love is and what it is not. “It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs…It always protects…” (vs. 4-7 NIV). In regards to abuse within marriage, some misinterpret Ephesians 5: 22 to justify abusive behavior. Let’s be clear. Scripture reveals that the marriage relationship is to reflect Christ’s relationship with his church—one of sacrificial love. A wife is called to respond to her husband’s biblical headship, not to his destructive and sinful behavior, just as the wife’s mandate is to respect her husband. God never condones abuse.”

 I am in no way advocating that you react in one way or another, but I am being called to tell you today that it is okay! That you can survive and so can your children.  Paul wrote in Ephesians 3: 16-20:

“I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being. so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love  may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ,  and to know this love that surpasses knowledge- that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.  Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us.” 

Paul wrote those scriptures to let us know that we are loved more than anyone could ever imagine and that we have strength that only Jesus can give us to be overcomers. That together we are strong, you are not alone!

Please understand that I am thankful for the many blessings I received during this dark heated time in my life because without it I would not be who or where I am now nor would I have three beautiful blessings from God.  I know your pain, dear sisters, I know your pain. Pray today for God to give you direction, clarity, and to let you know how you are to respond, but please whatever He lays on your heart just remember that there is life outside that boiling pot.

Beth Shumate