Loving Others Begins with Loving You

Photo by Priscilla Du Preez

Have you ever been hurt so badly that you cannot hide it?  Or felt pain so deep that it can be seen in your smile?  We have all been there.  We have all experienced pain.

Our own heartaches, hurts, brokenness and issues cause congestion and make it hard for us to love God with all our hearts when it is still aching. Then He says love your neighbor as yourself but unresolved heart issues prevent us from loving others when we do not truly love ourselves.

Mark 12: 30-31 (NIV) “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”

He said all the law is fulfilled in this. So no wonder the devil wants to keeps us hurting, broken and wounded.

Galatians 5: 14 For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”

It says the pure in heart shall see God. We are all on a journey, our hearts are in different places, and we must go gentle into the lives of those around us because we maybe just viewing things through our own unhealed pain. We must be careful not to inflict more pain but be a source of love in their life.

Matthew 5: 8 NIV “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.”

But the great part is He wants you to start loving yourself. No matter what you have done or what has been done to you. He wants your heart to be whole for out of it flows the issues of this life. He promised to bind up our wounds but we have to love ourselves and give grace to US on the difficult days. He loves us and stuffing down deep inside and ignoring is not what He meant.

Life can be cruel and the road we have been called to rough but He says we DO NOT have to walk around bleeding to death from the wounds. God said healed and whole spirit, soul and body.

1 Thessalonians 5:  23 ESV “Now may the God of peace himself sanctify you completely, and may your whole spirit and soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Loving others begins with loving you.  Come before God, surrender your heart and let Him bind up your wounds, heal your pain and refresh your spirit. Then begin giving yourself some love, stop being your own worst enemy.  Offer yourself grace.  Embrace peace.  And let the love of Jesus flow freely through you.


At His Feet,

Sheila Millinder