The Heart of Ruth

Photo by: Melissa Askew

But Ruth said, “Do not urge me to leave you or to return from following you. For where you go I will go, and where you lodge I will lodge. Your people shall be my people and your God my God.”  Ruth 1: 16  (ESV).

The words that come to mind as I read the verses were vow, commitment, covenant, oath.  Then I thought who are my committed friendship like this?  Who am I doing life with, committed to, loyal to and in covenant with?  Not only who is this committed to me but who am I this committed to?

I know over the years these verses have become used in wedding ceremonies to commit to deep covenant with your spouse but I am looking at Naomi and Ruth in awe of their deeply committed friendship.  They are all in, whole heartedly in this friendship for the good of the other. This is rare in our day.

The enemy has worked hard on today’s women to keep us constantly living in comparison so that there is no unity and bond where real power can be seen.  I see this everywhere I turn.  We see here how valuable this friendship was to Ruth and her wiliness to die for that friendship shows she knew they were better together.  God has been ministering this in my heart over the past 5 years.  This covenant in friendships is a need.  We truly need each other.  We add so much to one another and can do life better and stronger together.

Ecclesiastes 4: 9 “two are better than one, because they have good reward for their labor.”  The Lord dropped in my heart this verse.  Then I read this:  “Two—Or more, who live together in any kind of society, and join their powers together in pursuit of any important object; are better than one—Act more cheerfully, and accomplish their designs more readily, than any of them could  do in a solitary state; because they have a good reward for their labor—Have great benefit by such combinations and conjunctions of their counsels and abilities, whereby they exceedingly support, encourage, and strengthen each other, and effect many things which none of them could have effected alone.”

WE ARE BETTER TOGETHER!!!  These women did life together.  They knew everything about each other and trusted the other with their whole heart.  I know it’s risky putting yourself out there and trying to build friendships but we must and just trust God.  It is important to cultivate friendships in a deeper way than the Sunday morning greeting at church.

So here is my heart and something God has placed in it….to truly KNOW the women around me.  I know it is impossible to know everyone but let God lead and make the connection then do what you can to cultivate it.  God did amazing things to turn life around for these two women and I believe that their friendship is an example of the deep commitment God has to us.  He is loyal, loving, and committed to us beyond any earthly relationship we have known.  And He wants to develop that character in us.

I am challenged deep in my heart today, to reach out to the women in my life and let them know that I cherish and value them and that I am so thankful for their friendship.  So I challenge you to reach out to those women who are loyal to you and have committed themselves to you.


Father, I thank you for the few devoted and loyal women in my life.  Thank you for the gift of friendship and that You Lord are our friend, mold us, and shape us into Your image so that we can become a true friend to others as You have been to us.  Move in our lives Lord and create divine appointments for women to meet other women who will cultivate a deep friendship and truly do life together.  We are better, we are stronger…. together Lord.  Help us have time for these relationships Lord.  Let us see the benefit of them and make them a priority.  Women want to be known and to be loved to so help us to know the women around us and pour out your love Lord.  Thank you for this gift in Jesus name…Amen.

How will we be committed to the women in our circles?  How will we cultivate the heart of Ruth to the women in our lives?   I know being this vulnerable is hard.  But the benefits are many and worth the risk of being hurt or rejected.  I find myself in a season of my life where leaning in on the women around me has brought me hope and encouragement and I want to give that back to every woman I encounter.  Are you with me?

At His Feet,

Sheila Millinder